Tuesday, November 16, 2010

One More Step

I am now registered for PS-MAPP classes, which is the Iowa foster parent training.  The downside is it will not start until late February.  In any event, I am excited to be taking a few steps further down the path.

In the meantime, I have been contemplating the two possible paths: foster to adopt or international adoption.  I still feel like international adoption is something I'd like to try, but the cost is so astounding that I don't know if it is worth it.  I also am torn about which country to adopt from.  As a single woman, my options are limited.  Right now I like Haiti, the Marshall Islands, Mongolia, Burundi, the Congo and Brazil as possible options.  

As for foster to adopt, I am fascinated by the website adoptuskids.org which profiles kids available for adoption.  Just about any combination is available: 2, 3, 4, or up to 12 kids.  Boys and girls.  Infant to 18 yr olds.  All longing for families.

But in the meantime, I have to wait for the next step.

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Gomer: Unfaithfulness to Redemption

Gomer was the daughter of Diblaim and the wife of Hosea.  We know she had at least three children (2 sons and a daughter)
Of the marriage relationships in the Bible, Gomer and Hosea have one of the most interesting and most controversial. 
Hosea 1:2 states that “The Lord said to [Hosea], “Go, take to yourself an adulterous wife and children of unfaithfulness, because the land is guilty of the vilest adultery in departing from the Lord.”  So Hosea married Gomer. 
Apparently God not only had a partner selected for Hosea, He specifically directed him to her.  However, the rest of their relationship would not be as simple as a God-given direction.
Commentators have differences of opinion on Gomer’s morality.  Is she a woman who marries, then falls into a sexual relationship with another man?  Was she a prostitute?   Or was she just  a sexually active unmarried woman?  Did Hosea know she had a “morally casual attitude?” Did she have children at the time of the marriage?  Or is this all allegory to make the people understand God’s analogy of their unfaithfulness to Him?
The debate comes from the fact that God’s word admonishes  priests from marrying prostitutes.  We recoil from the idea that God commanded his servant to marry someone clearly not up to God’s standards.  Hosea was not a priest, rather a prophet, but he is commanded by God to marry Gomer, who at the least had a shaky moral reputation.
In any event, Gomer’s lack of fidelity is on display for generations and generations.  She has a son with Hosea, then two more children – with questionable paternity.  Eventually, she and Hosea separate.  Hosea must purchase her back from another for 15  sheckels of silver (the cost of a slave) and some barley.
Grim and frustrating as it is, Gomer’s story is a wonderful one for us:  God loves us just as Hosea loved Gomer.  God stands ready to redeem us from our slavery to sin.  He will pursue us until He lures us back to Himself. 
Even though we are as unfaithful to God as Gomer was to Hosea, God wants a loving relationship with us.  Amazing!

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Jezebel: A Character Study

Having It All
Jezebel is considered one of the most evil characters in the Bible.  She certainly did wicked deeds to earn that label:  plotted murder, threatened prophets, influenced her husband to do the wrong thing, and brandished power to her own benefit regardless of its cost to others.
How did she become so hated?  What propelled her to do these evil things which resulted in her death and the death of her family? 
What can today’s Christian woman learn from Jezebel?
Jezebel was born into luxury.  As the daughter of Ethbaal, King of the Sidonians, she probably never knew the anxiety of wondering where her next meal would come from.  She would have retainers, servants, and others constantly waiting on her every whim.  Jezebel may even had some teaching in how to read or write or figure, as her future dealings indicate.  These skills were not available for the average 9th century BC person, as a female, it was even more rare.
The Sidonians resided in Phoenicia.   Likely living in Tyre,  Jezebel’s family worshiped Baal, and it is possible that her name praises the chief storm god of Phoenicia.  However, in Hebrew, her name means ”not exalted.” 
Jezebel married Ahab, the King of Israel.  This meant Ahab was the ruler of the 10 tribes of Israel that did not stay with the House of David.  Whether Jezebel actually loved Ahab is a question that we may never answer.  Jezebel probably did not have a say in whom she was married to as royal daughters, since the beginning of time, were viewed as a way to solidify national ties.
We do know that her husband was greatly influenced by her.  Whether that means she was attractive, persuasive, intelligent or some combination, we do not know.  But it appears that if Jezebel wanted something, she got it.

True Believer?
Jezebel grew up in the Sidonian royal family, which worshiped Baal.  When she married Ahab, King of Israel, she imported her religion to Israel.  Jezebel, like most, grew up with a set of traditions, beliefs, and ways to do things.  For Jezebel, this meant that she followed Baal. 


Jezebel flexed her muscle and convinced her husband Ahab to abandon his father’s God and worship hers, much like Solomon’s wives lead him astray.  I Kings 16:32 relates that Ahab built Baal a new temple in Samaria.  And in that temple, he placed an alter for Baal worship.  Ahab also set up an Asherah pole.
What was Baal worship?  According to the Holman Bible Handbook, Baal means “master” and was a storm god.    His usual title was “Rider of the Clouds” and he is often depicted with a thunderbolt in his hand.   Jezebel had 450 prophets of Baal at the temple, for which she provided food.
Asherah was Baal’s female consort who was revered as a fertility goddess.  Jezebel provided food for 400 Asherah prophets.
In other words, Jezebel put her money where her heart was – with Baal.  She likely spent time with these prophets, and the prophets viewed her favor as something to capture and maintain - both for financial stability and to simply continue to live.
In I Kings 18:16-46, Elijah challenged these 850 prophets to a show down on Mount Carmel.  It appears that Jezebel was unaware this was going on, as she does not find out until later what happened.  Ahab, however, was present, as were the ”people from all over Israel.”  
Elijah told the people to chose between God and Baal.  He had the prophets of Baal prepare a sacrifice and call on Baal to set it on fire (Baal was viewed as a fire god as well).  From morning to noon the prophets called out to Baal, but nothing happened.
Elijah taunted them, indicating that Baal must be asleep or busy or deep in thought.  The prophets started shouting louder and slashing themselves.  Midday passed and the evening sacrifice arrived.  But Baal did not.
Elijah built an altar and had trench placed around it; wood and the meat sacrifice were placed on the altar.  He then had the people fill four large jars with water and they were poured out over the wood, sacrifice and altar.  Again, and Again, the jars were filled and poured out.   Elijah then prayed and “the fire of the Lord” fell and burned up the sacrifice, the wood, the stones, the soil and the water in the trench.
When the people saw this, they cried out that “The Lord, He is God!”
Elijah ordered the prophets of Baal be seized and killed.
Ahab was dispatched to eat and drink, because Elijah prophesied rain (a drought raged in Samaria for years which caused a famine).  And Ahab finally got back to Jezebel to report that all of her prophets were dead.
Jezebel was furious.  Her yes-men were gone.  Her money was spent for naught, and she’d have to start training or recruiting a set of new prophets.  Baal worship and indoctrination would be set back for a few weeks, months or years. 
Maybe she even believed that Baal would have vengence on her for her failure to protect Baal’s servants.
In any event, she sent a message to Elijah, stating “May the gods deal with me, be it ever so severely, if by this time tomorrow I do not make your life like that of one of them.”  Jezebel was a woman used to getting what she wanted. 
Elijah, terrified, fled into the desert.
So was Jezebel truly a believer in Baal?  Or was it just a way for her to get power and control the people?  A way to cloak her plans in a divine manner?

Let Nothing Stand in the Way
In I Kings 21, Jezebel and Ahab lived in a palace in Jezreel.  Near the palace was a lovely vineyard owned by Naboth, a Jezreelite.  Ahab coveted the vineyard, desiring to plant a garden in it.  He asked Naboth to sell it to him, offering to pay the market price or a land swap for a better vineyard.
Naboth refused, noting the land was a family inheritance.  Israelites viewed the land as God's and that the people as tenants could not dispose of their land.   (Leviticus 25:23).
Ahab pouted all the way home, and arrived sullen and angry.  He refused to eat and laid on his bed.   Jezebel came in to see him, and asked why he was in such a mood and why he wouldn’t eat.
Ahab told her of the deal he tried to reach with Naboth.   Jezebel taunted him, “Is this how you act as king over Israel? Get up and eat!   Cheer Up.  I’ll get you the vineyard of Naboth the Jezreelite.”  
Jezebel grew up with a differently kingship structure – her father took what he wanted, when he wanted it.  Jezebel was not to be stopped by an Israelite inheritance law or Israelite property law.
She took Ahab’s seal and wrote letters. in his name, requesting the elders and nobles in Naboth’s city host  a fast.  At the dinner, the elders were to have Naboth seated in a prominent place among the people.  Two scoundrels were to be seated opposite him.  These two men would later falsely testify that  Naboth had cursed both God and King Ahab.  After Naboth was tried for blasphemy and sedition, the death sentence was carried out.
With Naboth dead, the land went to Ahab and Jezebel. 
Jezebel told Ahab that Naboth was dead, and Ahab promptly went down to the vineyard and took possession of it.
God, however, did not view this murder and theft as a trivial matter.  He sent Elijah to Ahab in the vineyard.  There, Elijah pronounced Ahab’s punishment for these crimes:  death, specifically, in the place where Naboth died, the dogs would lick up Ahab’s blood.  Dogs would eat those belonging to Ahab’s family and Jezebel would be devoured by dogs near the wall of Jezreel.
Ahab, hearing this prophecy, repented by tearing his clothes, put on sackcloth and fasted.  The Lord saw Ahab humbled himself and decided to delay the disaster until after Ahab’s death.
Jezebel apparently did not repent.
Jezebel scoffed at the word of the Lord and schemed a way to get Naboth’s property for Ahab.  She was a dangerous woman because she was a poor loser.  If she didn’t get her way, she’d figure out a way to wield her power to get back at the person.
She was focused on making her own life easier, regardless of the impact on others.  In a way, her persistence should be admired.  Imagine if she converted to the Jewish faith and followed God with the devotion she demonstrated for Baal and for herself.  Instead of a legacy of ashes, she could have a legacy worthy of mention in Hebrews 11.


Lesson Learned


So what can today's woman learn from Jezebel?  First, there are consequences when we flout God's law.  Although they may not be immediate, those consequences do come.  Jezebel tried to ignore God's law and paid for it with her life and her family's lives. 


Second, Jezebel, like all of us, is deeply rooted in the traditions of her family.  We need to examine our lives to see what traditions (both good and bad) we carry over into our adult lives.  Things like gossiping, substance abuse, anger management problems, emotional manipulation, overeating, over-spending, abuse and other bad habits may be deeply embedded in our lives via our family traditions and patterns.  We must be vigilant to remove them from our daily life and thoughts, or we risk passing them to another generation of our families.


Self-centeredness or getting our own way without concern for others is a dangerous path.  In Jezebel's case, it lead her to murder and theft.   We can exhibit the same qualities when we steal time from our employers by talking on the phone or playing on the internet or when we assassinate another's character by talking about them.  In God's eyes, these are still theft and murder and they arise from the same selfish part of the heart that Jezebel's actions did.


Finally, we learn from Jezebel about our God.  He is powerful.  He pursues us (just as He sought to prove to Israel his power).  He desires that we keep his law faithfully.  He is just, in that He does not let scoffers like Jezebel go without punishment.










Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Spiritual Discipline: Scripture Memorization

A few posts ago, I commented that I wanted to rethink how I do my own spiritual disciplines and look at how we teach spiritual disciplines in the modern American church.  My first stop is scripture memorization.

My church is currently doing a sermon series on Romans 12, and as part of that, we read/recite the first two verses each week.  I think this is a good (and sneaky) way to get people to memorize scripture without even realizing it.  The repetition over several weeks certainly helps people think about the verse, and possibly commit it to memory.

I know that many churches have Awana programs that help teach and reward children for scripture memory, but I'm not sure how many programs exist for adults.

I never attended Awana, but we did do some scripture memory at church.  I am always surprised when a verse pops back to me (not always with the correct citation) in times I need it.  But I have recently felt the need to add more time in my schedule to devote to scripture memorization.

Of course, with anything I do, I have to figure out how to make it work in my schedule and not become another thing to check off.  I suspect many people don't do scripture memorization due to the time involved.  My current plan is to tape up a verse near my bathroom mirror to recite each morning and night.  My hope is that within a week I will have memorized it and can move onto a new verse.

In the past, I have tried memorizing while I walk on the treadmill.  I tried this first in law school when I was memorizing terms and concepts. A friend of mine and I would go to the gym with stacks of cards (available in any fine law book store) and study them, swapping decks half way through the gym session.  This approach did seem to work, but my treadmill walking has fallen off during the nice weather outside.  Never fear, this is Iowa and the weather is due to change any day now, making this method a possibility again too.

So how do you sneak a few verses into  your memory?  How do you think the church should encourage scripture memorization?

Monday, November 8, 2010

Solitude

As an introvert, I thrive on being alone.  I still need interaction with people, but I also crave the time to reflect, think, and plan that solitude brings me.  In fact, I get grumpy and frazzled if I am forced to spend too much time in a large group!


Someone asked me how I could spend so much time alone.  I find there are always things to distract you: television, radio, books, the internet, friends, housework or exercise.  I don't even realize most of the time that I am alone.

On the other hand, I wonder how people spend so much time together!  When do you find time to think things through when you are constantly interacting with others?  

Like most things, God intend us to enjoy a balance of time together and time in solitude.  Jesus modeled this to us during his lifetime.

I find comfort in the fact that Jesus took time to himself.  In solitude, he would pray and talk with God (Mark 1:35, Luke 5:16, Luke 6:12).  Occasionally he'd let a couple disciples come along with him, but the multitude did not get to intrude in this time (Matthew 26:36, Luke 9:18, Luke 9:28).

Have you ever wondered what Jesus prayed about?  What did he need to say to God on a consistent basis?  Why was it important to him to spend the time in solitude?  What benefits would solitude have for us today?



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Saturday, November 6, 2010

SEEL Retreat #3

Three retreats in, and I'm learning a lot.  To recap, I'm doing an Ignatius spiritual retreat called "Spiritual Exercises in Everyday Life." Ignatius' idea was to complete the exercises within 30 days; we are spreading out the exercises over nine months.

We have focused on finding solitude and silence and longing for God.  For the next month, we're looking at God's love.  

One of Ignatius' foundations is that we will strip ourselves of our "inordinate affections" so that we can make decisions that are not based on disordered affections, but rather on what God wants for us.

I think this foundation is very true.  I get skewed priorities and ideas that I need to set back aright. By remaining in God's presence through prayer, I learn about myself and about where He wants me.

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Election Day

I've already headed to the polls to vote.  I love actually going instead of absentee voting because it evokes memories of going to vote with my parents.  I was fascinated by the voting booth with its sliding curtain, levers to pull and buttons to push.  They even had a sample machine that was Barbie-sized to see how things worked in the actual booth.

Another reason I love going to vote is to see my neighbors. It is amazing who you run into when voting.  And, since you usually have time to chat while you wait, you can always make a few new friends.

Given the nationwide impact our votes can have, it is important that everyone exercise their right to vote.  My motto is "If you don't vote, you can't complain!"